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Kids’ Turn

Lists several books for kids and teens: “Putting kids in the center of healing, not in the middle of conflict”

More books for kids and teens (list provided by the California Courts)

Divorce is Not the End of the World: Zoe and Evan’s Coping Guide
Ellen Sue Stern, Zoe Stern & Evan Stern (1997) Tricycle Press
For ages 9-15. Feelings of guilt and anger. Dealing with living in two homes and avoiding manipulation by parents. Talking to friends and parents and dealing with parent’s new relationships, step-parents, and step-siblings.

For Better, For Worse: A Guide to Surviving Divorce for Preteens and Their Families
Janet Bode and Stan Mack (2001) Simon & Schuster

How It Feels When Parents Divorce
Jill Krementz (2006) Alfred A Knopf
In this immensely moving book, nineteen boys and girls, from seven to sixteen years old and from highly diverse backgrounds, share with us their deepest feelings about their parents’ divorce.

How to Survive Your Parents’ Divorce
Nancy O’Keefe Bolick (1995) Franklin Watts
For ages 12-16. Interviews with teens whose parents have divorced or separated. Comments and advice based on the interviews.

It’s Not the End of the World
Blume, Judy (1986) Yearling Books
The story of how a girl and her siblings react to their parents’ separation.

Mom’s House, Dad’s House for Kids: Feeling at Home in One Home or Two
Isolina Ricci (2006) Fireside
An inside view of separation, divorce, and forming a stepfamily. It is primarily for children 10 and older to read alone or with their parents.

Pre-teen Pressures: Divorce
Goldentyer, D. Steck (1998) Vaughn Company

Snowman: A kid’s guide to coming to terms with separation and divorce
Risa J. Garon (2000) Children of Separation and Divorce Center Inc.
This book is a companion to “A Kids’ Guide to Coming to Terms with Separation and Divorce, Part II”, which is directed to a more advanced reader. Younger readers may want to read the companion book with a more experienced reader.

Surviving Divorce: A Student’s Companion to Children in the Middle II
Donald A. Gordon and Jack Arbuthnot (2005) Center for Divorce Education
This booklet is a resource in dealing with topics such as you and your family, some myths and truths about divorce, how divorce makes you feel, asking for help, getting on with your life and many other excellent discussions.

Surviving High School
Mike Riera (1997) Celestial Arts Publishing.
Mike Riera, who has worked with students for over nineteen years, speaks directly to students about the situations and changes they will face both during and immediately after high school. Interspersed with the author’s down-to-earth, practical guidance are the words of teens who offer their own points of view and experiences.

Teens and Divorce
Gail B. Stewart (2000) Greenhaven Press

Teens with Single Parents: Why Me?
Margaret A. Shultz (1997) Enslow

The Divorce Helpbook for Teens
Cynthia MacGregor (2004) Impact Publishers
Deals with questions: Why do parents get divorced? How will the divorce change our lives? What can I do to feel less depressed? Who can I talk to about my problems? What’s going to happen next? How do you tell absent parents that they do not visit enough? How do you say “no” to parents who want  you to carry messages to, or spy on, the other parent? What is there to talk about when you visit a parent who’s moved away?

The Divorce Workbook for Teens: Activities to Help You Move Beyond the Break Up
(Instant Help Books, 2008)

When Your Parents Split Up...How to Keep Yourself Together
Alys Swan Shultz (1997) Enslow

NOTE: We borrowed this listing from the California Courts. We do not endorse them and we are not responsible for their content.

Q & A

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